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Is Your Marriage Stronger Than An Affair?

The initial emotional responses to learning of a spousal extramarital affair can be all-engulfing. Naturally, you are the last one to learn about it. And now you know. Everything your life has been based on for years is now in question. You feel you can't possibly go on together now that pain, sorrow, and anger are overwhelming you. You ask yourself endlessly why the person you married out of love doesn't feel the same emotions regarding your marriage as you still feel despite the passage of time. But perhaps it doesn't have to mean the ending of your marriage.

Though some might be inclined to run directly to a divorce attorney, there are reasons to stay married, even after an affair. Being human, it is very probable that even we have lusted after someone who is not our spouse at one time or another. We may have fantasized about a tryst, wondering what being intimate with someone else might be like. Unintentionally, you have perhaps flirted with of the people you've fantasized about. While it's true that we are all human and make mistakes at times, it is from those very mistakes that we can learn the most.

Here is a reason to stay married after an affair: Learning from mistakes makes as stronger. If we do it together as a couple, it makes our marriage stronger. Any problem, any issue, any pitfall or disaster that you work through as a united team will build your marriage and your relationship up.

Whether you are the one who strayed or your partner, if you have the strength to build your marriage up after this, it will be stronger than ever. If the partner who had an affair is truly regretful of what they did, the marriage can survive.

In trying to determine whether or not to end an affair, a good place to begin is asking oneself why they began the affair in the first place. What emotions encompassed the beginning of the affair? Do you feel guilty, and if so, why did you feel this guilt? There could be any number of reasons, including not wanting to end your marriage, not wanting to hurt your spouse, or perhaps, because you really do love your partner. Together, you have been building a marriage and a life.

Why stop your infidelity? This affair you have going is filled with excitement, intrigue and a sense of danger from the sneaking around. Is it really something that will last past those feelings? Is it a relationship that will stand the test of time? It wont, when those feelings are gone, the thrill of your relationship will be gone. You will want to crawl back to that strong rock, your spouse. Make the decision yourself before it is too late.

Probably the best reason to stop the affair now is that you love your spouse still, after years and years together. In good times and bad, with all your idiocyncrasies, they have remained steadfastly with you. They love you and you still love them. Now is the time to end this affair. Not tomorrow, not next week. Now.

If you both have the strength and endurance to get past the affair, then you will survive. Your love for each other will grow deeper. You married each other for a reason and that is why you will stay married.

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